Many couples struggling with infertility experience some amount of depression and anxiety during the holiday season. Having to answer the same questions over and over again (When are you planning to have a baby?) can lead to awkwardness and pain. So, how do you make it through the holidays without feeling stressed out? Here are a few tips for a Happy Holiday while Struggling with Infertility:
- Get to Know Yourself: In the midst of the hustle and bustle of the holiday season, make time for solitude every day. Perhaps try meditation, yoga, or simply focusing on your breathing. You will be less likely to be upset by external circumstances or people when you are fully in touch with your emotions.
- Plan Ahead: Try to prepare answers ahead of time to deal with questions that might be asked regarding your attempts to get pregnant and start a family. You could also try to find out if anyone at a family gathering or social event will be making a newbaby announcement, so you are less likely to get flustered or embarrassed.
- Give Others the Benefit of the Doubt: While some comments or questions might make you uncomfortable, it is in your own interest to give others the benefit of the doubt. Most often the questions are innocently asked out of genuine interest or concern and can be graciously answered (or tactfully deflected) without upsetting yourself.
- Do Something that Sparks Joy: It’s okay to turn down invitations if you feel you might not be able to handle certain year-ending family or social events. How about a get-away vacation with your beloved to help you catch up on rest and relaxation? Or perhaps doing some volunteer work at your favorite charity to put you in a positive frame of mind.
It is important not to give in to feelings of despondency and despair. Remember, the Christmas story itself is of a miracle birth against all odds. We, at ReproMed Fertility Center, encourage you to celebrate the holiday season full of hope & happiness!